21 Years Later - Reflections on Grief
I'm re-posting a piece I wrote 4 years ago. It reflects on the grief of losing our son and some lessons I've learned along the way.
It has been 17 years. I've been learning some things during that time.
- Life goes on -- but never the same as before.
- Death doesn't seem as scary anymore.
- I really don't like saying 'goodbye' -- ever.
- I'm jealous that you get to join in the worship going on 24/7 (I wish you could tell me some of what it is like. It might help with my doctoral work.)
- Families are complex creatures, imperfect and messed, and yet full of opportunities to reflect God's grace.
- The feeling of loss never leaves completely; know that you are always remembered.
- Music helps the healing.
- It hard to imagine you as imperfect.
- At times I still ask "Does Jesus Care?"
- Real men are allowed to cry - even if it is still embarrassing.
After another 4 years I would add...
- God is revealing himself in the midst of our circumstances.
- Praise comes through lament - Brueggemann
- The journey is worth living - don't just wait for the destination.